Kids Use Mom’s Funeral To Talk About How Much They Despised Her

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When people die, we usually feel inclined to say good things about them.  We might even consider lying, just to get through the day.  But rarely do you ever see anyone tell the complete and ugly truth about a person who just died, no matter how nasty that person might have been in life.

Some kids in Nevada decided that they would tell the truth at their mother’s funeral, no sugar coating.  So, the ceremony for Marianne Theresa Johnson-Reddick was unlike any other funeral that most of us have ever seen.

“On behalf of her children who she abrasively exposed to her evil and violent life, we celebrate her passing from this earth and hope she lives in the after-life reliving each gesture of violence, cruelty and shame that she delivered on her children,” the obituary began.

The obit has circled the Internet, as people are stunned that the woman’s children have been so honest about the horrors she put them through during life.  The initiative was began by daughter Katherine Reddick, who is now a psychology consultant, likely entering the field because she had to work through so many of her own psychological challenges.

The five children grew up in an orphanage after being taken away from their mom and being disconnected from her for over 30 years.

“Everyone she met, adult or child was tortured by her cruelty and exposure to violence, criminal activity, vulgarity, and hatred of the gentle or kind human spirit,” the obit said. “Our greatest wish now is to stimulate a national movement that mandates a purposeful and dedicated war against child abuse in the United States of America.”

The children have played a role in changing the laws of Nevada to allow kids to severe ties from abusive parents.   The old woman, who was likely an abuse victim herself, lived in a trailer park with 15 cats up until the day she had to go to the hospital for bladder cancer.  She may have been mentally ill, leading to her abusive behavior.  It’s just sad all the way around.

 

 

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  1. Nothing But The Truth!

    It would truly amaze me if the people related to this story are African-Americans! The author has very carefully concealed the real identity of the Children and Family. No matter how few parenting skills our African-American Parents may possess we clearly understand that our Parents are required to be Parents in a racist American society where Parenting in these turbulent times is extremely challenging! These must be white people, I am sure! We-African-Americans-are most inclined to honor our Mothers and Fathers or say as little as possible if we have nothing great to say about them. My Father left my Mother, Brothers and me when I was eleven (11) years old, but I still honored him at his memorial. Presentations by the Children at their Mother’s Memorial does not diminish the deceased Mother, but instead reflects most negatively on these angry, and hurt and diminished Children! When five (5) adult, sane, possibly intelligent and rational people make such a conscious decision, it probably reflects on the signs of the times rather than great judgment!I am quite sure that the Children will live to regret their collective, unfortunate decision.

    • I knew someone had to bring race into this as it becomes a topic for every discussion on this blog. Personally, I don’t understand why black people like to pretend that every deceased individual was a saint sitting at the right hand of God at every funeral. I have been to the funerals of many people who were a scourge on society and read obituaries that had nothing to do with the people being funeralized. Black people like to make people sound and feel good, which is what I did for my mothers funeral. I was too embarrassed to let people know how many ways and to what extent she hurt me, but I still live with the painful memories of how I grew up and the effect on my present life. I was angry enough to tell the truth, but instead chose to lie. I am not happy with what I did, but everyone else felt good. No one reading this has a right to criticize anything those people did because none of us have walked in their shoes. I hope they can finally heal from those wounds. I recently attended the funeral of a man and people nearly fell off the benches due to the antics of his mother (who is a wicked and evil witch) acting like she was the Pope’s sister. The performance bordered on the ridiculous. I couldn’t wait to get out of there.

      • @tiamette – I can surely identify with what you are saying. I grew up in a mentally (sometimes physically) abusive household. I was made to feel as if my life had no importance within my family dynamic. i was the youngest and the only girl out of 6 older brothers and a single mom after divorce. I found out in my 20s that the man who i thought was my father, was not. My mom turned my brother against me and never told me the truth before she died. I know who my bio dad is but unfortunately, he passed away before I found out the truth. At any rate, you know we are raised to keep quiet about family things and sometimes, we are ashamed and internalize that hurt. But, these people (no matter what culture they are)did something that we two didn’t get a chance to do. Say exactly what they needed to say; didn’t sugarcoat anything and i’m sure that was a cleansing for them. I applaud what they did.
        You are correct in stating that it didn’t matter WHO these people were. What mattered is they did something a LOT of children could not and cannot do. They took their voices back and changed some laws. I think that is a great thing.

      • well said, I am with you

    • I’m African-American and if this was my mother and she treated me and my siblings that way best believe I wouldn’t have sugar coated the truth either with no regrets. I hope when my time comes my children speak the truth about me.

    • Sorry to disappoint you….But they are “white people’

  2. This is very sad. I wish those kids had more time to think about some of the more positive things that the Mom had.

    You never know what has happened in the lives and I hope that they will be able to get pass whatever their bad memories were before it comes back to haunt them.

  3. I disagree with the children. If you have nothing positive to say for the person who brought you into this world. Then don’t show your face at the funeral ! Idiot’s.

    @Tiemette: black people have been through hell due to racism, so yes, we embrace ‘the fruits of Gods spirit’ including forgiveness. Some white folk backslide when it comes to scripture in order to continue Prejudice, Racism and Political Agenda.

    This is one difference between black christian’s and white conservative christian’s.

    You guys turn God on and off like a light switch.

  4. Generational curses

    People should understand that just because your parent(s) may be a joy in your life, it doesn’t always be true for someone else’s life. Maybe their mom was bitter from her childhood or maybe she had mental illness. No one has details unless they personally knew this family.

  5. I think the grown children were cowards. They seemed to only have courage to speak ill will of their mother after she was dead. Who knows, maybe the children and the mother would have experienced some form of healing if they had confronted each other. You also denied your mother an opportunity to ask for forgiveness.

    • She didn’t deserve forgiveness.

    • The mother chose not to ask for forgiveness. She knew what she had done to her kids. The kids told their truth, and no one else, including this blog, has the right or the authority to judge them. Because in the end, you are hnot going to help the adult children heal.

    • BS!.. CONFRONT my a$$!!!.. i know a MOTHER who was confronted, and denied any wrongdoing, as if, the pain felt by the child was IMAGINARY… its to no AVAIL when the parent themselves are in denial about their parenting.. and at THAT AGE, most of what pains the adult child has been LONG FORGOTTEN by the mother…. the confrontation afforded the mother the opportunity to ask for forgiveness, but she never CLAIMED any wrongdoing…. #WASTEOFTIMEFORSOME…. ijs…

      • i agree with you 100% jg. the parent who has done the abusing goes on with their lives as if it was just an ordinary day. when i left home, i KNEW i would never come back to live with my mother. i still loved her. don’t get me wrong. for over 15 years i begged her to tell me the truth about something that was detrimental to my wellbeing and my family. but, she kept the truth from me until the day she died. because SHE never wanted to admit to what she had done and to right a wrong that SHE had done.
        So, the fact that this woman never asked forgiveness from her children only proves that HER life was so much more important than theirs. THEY were the victims, not her. And the CREATOR will be the only one that she has to face now. They have a right to how they feel.

    • sometimes, forgiveness has to be requested. she obviously didn’t seek out her children of whom she abused. they have every right to feel the way they do. i followed this story and i’ve read several articles about it. this woman abused those children and anyone else who came across her path. she was not a good person and only the Creator can help her now.
      Those people have a right to their feelings and emotions. obviously they could not express them growing up in that household. until you have walked in the shoes of an abused child, you have NO right to judge.

  6. I wish my mother was alive to tell me something, a lot of people in not meant too be a “Parent” and this. Was(1) one of those ” Rare situation. To the Children “Obidence is better than Satifice. Honor Thy Mother & Father, that your Days on this Earth be Longer!

    • @carol let’s read the whole Scripture please! And the bible also states parent’s do not provoke your children to do wrath!!!!! So while everyone is feeling like the grown children is wrong …….. let’s think about them being abused abd then you tell me WERE THEY PROVOKED OR NOT!!!

  7. They should have went to het prayed together and tried to telease the anger. I wish I could remember the scripture that says something like…if u come to the alter with gifts and sacrifice but your brother have something against u then leave and come back…in other words to me it meant go fix it or reconcile…another is without love u r nothing. Not quoted just remembering. Im trying. please pray for the living. may God and his mercy grace and love one day heal them.

  8. She may have been a bad mother but where have they been raised since they were taken away that they never learned the power of forgiveness for themselves not her. Did they ever tell her these things to her face or was this some type of act of revenge. I don’t see how this is going to benefit them moving forward.

  9. Oh Lord. I can’t relate and I thank God for that. I wish them well. I will not judge them for what they felt in their hearts was the right thing to do.

  10. There’s nothing wrong with telling the truth, and why not? This alone may change a lot of the readers and cause them to note how they treat their offspring. After all, they may be the ones to choose your nursing care home and bury your a**.

  11. My mom was abusive to me. When she passed I her passing extremely hard.From age 16 up till the day she passed, I vowed that I would be the better person.That meant looking after her during her illness, going to Dr visits, etc. I judged her for her actions, evilness or cruelty.I gave her the best going home funeral that my money afforded. I say this to everyone cause I’m thankful she gave me life.Her sections may have not showed love, but she was still my MOM! Get over it, Your grown.You were wrong for airing it at her funeral. I’m sure you had time to sit n talk to her.As her child you still owe her some level of respect. Learn from her shortcomings.

  12. Sorry for any errors.
    I took her passing extremely hard.
    I didn’t judge her for her actions or lack of love.

    My fingers type faster than my mind thinks. Lol

  13. I would not have attended; she was a bad seed when her own children could not have anything positive to say. She took them thru hell and she will return that which she left.

  14. I thank God for the parents I and my siblings were Blessed,I just have to say if God forgives who are we not to. And another thing, he who angers you controls you….

  15. LaRoderick "Swovaye" McGee

    I’m not gonna try to speak my life story, but i fully understand where the Kids/Grown ups are coming from when they spoke their true feelings about their mother. I love my mother but nobody has walked these “Stressful Miles” that my feet have walked over the years as a kid to this present day at 34. I can recall so many times of hurt its rediculous, we never talk to each other and its been like this for years, she’s never had my back and when people on the outside looking in are around she acts as if she and I have a good relationship. All i can say on the matter is this, its to many disfunctional families around, these are the Revelations and if being truthful is a bad thing then go ahead, do what you’re traditionally use too, “Sugar Coating”. My moms is still alive but i’ve heard and seen it all, she’s even said out her very own mouth what she’s going do at her mothers funeral, Only If She Knew… I commend those that spoke, I aint mad at them at all…

  16. Arthur Jones Editor;; Your Computer Newspaper

    In the true interest of Christianity, reality and truth,

    we know God approves truth. He also approves compassion and empathy, but honesty is never out of place. It’s never the wrong thing to do, unless, of course it may cause someone’s death or severe harm. As the woman was already dead, I feel the children did their duty as her progeny and waited respectfully until she was dead. No matter what they said, if it were true, it’s just true. As we said, honesty, no matter how brutal or pointed, if it doesn’t cause harm to any living person, or subsequently potential severe harm, or negatively alter their future, which is potentially positive, honesty is the Christian way to go. Now we mentioned the caveats, unless that honesty, in and of itself cause actual harm to any living person, or produced a loss of, or to life, it’s just the thing to do. As there is actually no such thing as “little white lies”, it’s either a lie or it’s the truth. What would Jesus do. But we also have to remember, he was divine. He had no underlying needs to divest himself of angst, or abuse or pain. Now, yes, the truth can be painful. But so many more lies are created in attempts to cover the original lie, it soon becomes a major sin, resulting in an actual wall of lies. The devil uses marginal tactics to produce the right climate for untruths. No matter what the reason, unless it involves the criteria we aforementioned, DON’T DO IT.
    Arthur Jones,,Editor Your Computer Newspaper (FREEPRESS) [email protected]

  17. I disagree with them. if she was that bad, they should have told her while she was living. the funeral was not the place to talk like that. it goes back to the old saying ” if you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say anything”. if they hated her that much, they didn’t have to go to the funeral. they were grandstanding. and in my opinion they were wrong.

  18. You only live once and you feel what you feel. Why should they deprive themselves, of getting it off their chest, because there’s some self sacrificing, want to be Christians, quoting a small part of the bible about how you should feel towards your parents. Stop judging and keep it moving.

    As was said (MORE THAN ONCE) if you didn’t walk a mile in these people’s shoes, you don’t know what led them to speak ill of their mother after her death. That’s why this mess is perpetrated: those of us who have loving, semi-dysfunctional families don’t realize that everybody doesn’t have what we have or had. Look at yourselves and ask yourself this question every day: “Am I doing everything I can to make sure a child is not being abused in and out of my family TODAY”. Hopefully, if you’re honest, you can truthfully reply “YES”

  19. Abuse can leave a person “emotionally stranded”. To say that they should forgive or move on lacks the understanding of how abuse effects the mind spirit.
    What I can appreciate is at least they can avoid having people come to them with a false truth about their mother. No she was not a good person and that’s that.

  20. I couldn’t agree more about gietairrcs. I miss sitting with some of the elderly individuals I used to help and they would tell me stories for hours about the things that they witness when they were younger, and the lives that they lived up to the point that they needed care. I have always felt that the elderly know how to live their lives better than anyone, and they for sure never take it for granted! Sometimes the people taking care of them are not good people though, and it always breaks my heart to see someone talking badly to an elderly man or woman.I like how you made a switch from little tiny babies that have no real experience with life, to elderly men and women who have lived life to its fullest and still have more life to share with others. Such opposites!

  21. This article went ahead and made my day.

  22. Boy that really helps me the heck out.

  23. This is a most useful contribution to the debate

  24. What an awesome way to explain this-now I know everything!

  25. I’m not worthy to be in the same forum. ROTFL

  26. I hate my life but at least this makes it bearable.

  27. I literally jumped out of my chair and danced after reading this!

  28. Haha. I woke up down today. You’ve cheered me up!

  29. Many many quality points there.

  30. Yeah, that’s the ticket, sir or ma’am

  31. That’s cleared my thoughts. Thanks for contributing.

  32. Yours is a clever way of thinking about it.

  33. Super jazzed about getting that know-how.

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